You Deserved To Get Cancer

Arguably the most shameful of cancer on the list of organs and appendages is lung. "Was he/she a smoker?" they ask upon hearing the desperate news. The answer dependant on whether it was just pure bad luck or just desserts. A reader recently told me of her husband who was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer of the lung having never had a cigarette in his … [Read more...]

Had I Not Moved

Like many living in the Northern Hemisphere my Facebook feed has been full of recent back to school pictures. The most touching and personal one for me was a friend in Canada who posted two shots side by side. On the left her two girls in Grade 2 and Kindergarten, tiny little people with beaming smiles wearing the cutest blue pinafores with the … [Read more...]

Days Without Yips

Sometimes you just have to lock yourself away for the day. Well I do. Maybe it's not for everyone, but Friday was one of those days. Just a day. I just needed a day to be miserable about this very inconvenient case of breast cancer. I woke up on Saturday with a clearer head, sunshine streaming through the windows, and plans. Plans are good. It was … [Read more...]

More Breast Tape than a Kardashian at an Awards Night

Like many women of my vintage my best body years were hidden behind bad 90's fashion. High cut levi 501 jeans, bandanas and tucked in t-shirts. All of that beautiful skin, hidden. When things literally turned pear shaped, stretch marks on thighs and wobbles in the mid section, others were now bare, waisted. Wasted. Over the years the wear and … [Read more...]

Who You Marry Will Be Your Most Important Career Decision

My husband and I took the news of Dave Goldberg's death differently. For a start, G wasn't sure who Dave Goldberg was. "He was the CEO of Survey Monkey. He was married to Sheryl Sandberg" G's face remained blank. "You know, the woman who wrote 'Lean In' she's the COO of Facebook". G gave me a look of recognition but I wasn't convinced he knew … [Read more...]

A Simple Move – An Expat Goodbye

Initially the move sounded simple, from one side of the compound to the other. When the packers came to quote I stressed how easy it would be. "It's just down the end of the street and you make a right." "Yes" he had the look of a man who had heard it all before "but we still need to pack it, load it on a truck and get it into your new house. … [Read more...]

What Did I Have To Lose – Episode 4

"When I ask them what they're doing I really want to know what they're doing. They don't understand. If they can tell me just a little bit of what it's like at home I can picture it, feel it, I can almost be there with them." This week's episode of What Did I Have To Lose involved a few tears and a lot of giggles. Three interviews with three women … [Read more...]

Grocery Money

*updated A few years ago, a girlfriend of mine was coming out of the baby haze of three children in as many years. Over coffee with friends she suggested she was ready to return to the office. Actually, she was ready to return anywhere, as long as it was out of her house and someone was prepared to pay her. “I just want something part-time, … [Read more...]

Dear Terrorist

  Dear Terrorist, I imagine you're delighted with this week's warning from the U.S. embassy that has made its way across the Middle East. Your anonymous posting on an extremist website calling for the execution of American teachers certainly cast a wide net. As the mother of children at an American school, I have to say I did take it … [Read more...]

This Is What We Do

I'm smack in the middle of putting together a presentation on women and the effect of professional and social online networks. Except I'm not just writing about women, I'm writing about expat women. I write about expat women a lot. It's possibly because I'm an expat woman, or maybe it's that I feel we're often a misunderstood bunch, but primarily I … [Read more...]