If You’re Worried You’ve Messed Up Your Children, You Probably Have

The conversation took place while we were 'home' over the holidays in Australia.  Our local (non expat) life.  A neighbour I hadn't met before was about to embark on a solo parenting stint. Her husband was heading overseas to work, he'd be away for about six months. They'd considered moving the entire family (again) but it just felt too disruptive … [Read more...]

In the Middle of a Marriage

We had one of those terrible wedding videos, we're talking pre digital. Our VHS cassette tape arrived a few weeks after the wedding and was played as a source of entertainment for the first couple of years until it was packed away in the back of a cupboard rarely to be seen again. I can't really remember the fine details now but if I had to recall … [Read more...]

Be More Like Mo

I know I've told the story here before, maybe in a blog post? The story about the mate of mine who was telling me about a guy who he works with. Let's call the guy Mo.   Every Thursday night Mo who has lived most of his life in the Middle East, gets together with a few of his mates with a really specific purpose. Mo is muslim, and he … [Read more...]

Midnight at the Airport

*Today I'm speaking at The Hilton on Orchard Road in Singapore. It's our very first big fat expat meetup. Here's a copy of today's talk.* It's after midnight and I'm sitting in a restaurant at the airport. I have all of my familiar airport paraphernalia with me: a neck pillow, a long scarf that will later serve as an additional blanket on the … [Read more...]

A Buttered Bum

*I gave a talk yesterday at a Breast Cancer Awareness function in Doha. There were some great speakers from Hamad and the Cancer Centre - lots of great info and a great event to show women in Qatar that they are in good hands. I really want to say thank you to the American Women's Association. Those love heart cushions and drain bags are so … [Read more...]

Ladies Who Do Much More Than Lunch

There was a moment, maybe a minute, in Abu Dhabi this week where I wondered if my self perceived spirit of adventure was perhaps a little reckless. The seed of doubt was planted by my mother while speaking on the phone that morning, me in a taxi on my way to the airport, her in my hometown of eight thousand people in rural Australia. "Just be … [Read more...]

Expat Women Snap To It

Over the past year life in Qatar required 4am starts for work, it was a time zone thing, me on one side of the world, headquarters on the other. While the children got ready for school I sat with the door closed in my office, headset on, praying that no-one needed to find their PE shirt at the wrong time. If a fight broke out outside my door I'd … [Read more...]

5 Steps Towards Becoming a Great Expat

Step One: Kick off from your "home country", make your house a home. Fill it with shiny appliances that work, furniture that has been measured and matched, and then forcefully cram it into a dirty old banged up shipping container and push it out to sea for six months. Step Two: Arrive at your new location, realise it works on a completely … [Read more...]

The Recipe for a Perfect Move

Somewhere in the middle of last week my husband and I became obsessed with coleslaw. Ridculous, I know, but there we were with the recipe book open discussing which cabbage, savoy or chinese, like the world depended on our decision. It was Eid Al Adha and with the kids off school, and both of us not working, it meant time was on our side. Time we … [Read more...]

Why I’ve Been Taking Pictures of the Back of my Head…

I've been taking photos and video of the back of my head for around 8 months now. It began post chemo when my hair began to thin. Just the odd sneaky shot to see how things were looking back there. Scrutinized and then deleted for fear of being caught. The weekend when I began to malt more than a siberian husky co-incided with a volleyball … [Read more...]